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I'm going to post again about what happened the other day, because it's caused some issues.
A few days ago I posted publicly about something that happened at GoG. It was entirely public, no filters at all. I actually wrote and deleted that entry several times because I wasn't sure it was appropriate or fair or the correct thing to do.
Eventually I posted it, and people got upset. Which is totally fine. It was a petty thing to post about. I used words that I usually don't use on public forums. All perfectly acceptable reasons to be mad at me.
Here's why I wrote it in public (and yes, I completely understand that this is not an excuse, and that I should have handled things more delicately):
* I'm sick to death of the way things are at grove. There is a pattern of behavior that feels toxic to me. There has been maybe two or three rituals in the last two years that haven't left me feeling angry or frustrated or just depressed. It's to the point where I'm actively avoiding certain rituals and limiting my time at all of them. This is not the way things were in the relatively recent past. GoG used to be one of the few places that I felt at home and I'm mourning it's loss.
* I have strong ideas about hospitality, service, and volunteering. Volunteers should be supported, particularly when they are in the process of doing their volunteer work. Actively thwarting a volunteer in process and/or being rude to the volunteer is simply not ok in my book. If this had happened to someone else I'd be just as angry, possibly moreso.
* Private attempts to change these behaviors don't seem to have accomplished anything. Being polite doesn't seem to have accomplished anything. Ignoring the problem doesn't seem to have accomplished anything. I felt sortof backed into a corner -- like nothing was ever going to change. Like I have the choice of just leaving GoG and never going back because nothing I do is going to change what's happening. That frustration drove me to post publicly.
I apologize for upsetting people. I apologize for the ugly comments. I didn't really want to discuss this further online -- I should have turned comments off for the post. Really, I just wanted people to be aware that this happened and that I'm upset about it.
And that's all I have to say about that. I'm leaving comments on, but please be civil. If you want to discuss this or the original post with me further, please feel free to email:
applesticker @ gmail dot com
The End
A few days ago I posted publicly about something that happened at GoG. It was entirely public, no filters at all. I actually wrote and deleted that entry several times because I wasn't sure it was appropriate or fair or the correct thing to do.
Eventually I posted it, and people got upset. Which is totally fine. It was a petty thing to post about. I used words that I usually don't use on public forums. All perfectly acceptable reasons to be mad at me.
Here's why I wrote it in public (and yes, I completely understand that this is not an excuse, and that I should have handled things more delicately):
* I'm sick to death of the way things are at grove. There is a pattern of behavior that feels toxic to me. There has been maybe two or three rituals in the last two years that haven't left me feeling angry or frustrated or just depressed. It's to the point where I'm actively avoiding certain rituals and limiting my time at all of them. This is not the way things were in the relatively recent past. GoG used to be one of the few places that I felt at home and I'm mourning it's loss.
* I have strong ideas about hospitality, service, and volunteering. Volunteers should be supported, particularly when they are in the process of doing their volunteer work. Actively thwarting a volunteer in process and/or being rude to the volunteer is simply not ok in my book. If this had happened to someone else I'd be just as angry, possibly moreso.
* Private attempts to change these behaviors don't seem to have accomplished anything. Being polite doesn't seem to have accomplished anything. Ignoring the problem doesn't seem to have accomplished anything. I felt sortof backed into a corner -- like nothing was ever going to change. Like I have the choice of just leaving GoG and never going back because nothing I do is going to change what's happening. That frustration drove me to post publicly.
I apologize for upsetting people. I apologize for the ugly comments. I didn't really want to discuss this further online -- I should have turned comments off for the post. Really, I just wanted people to be aware that this happened and that I'm upset about it.
And that's all I have to say about that. I'm leaving comments on, but please be civil. If you want to discuss this or the original post with me further, please feel free to email:
applesticker @ gmail dot com
The End
